tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7822236028909008472.post568380169206311479..comments2023-06-26T05:37:49.969-07:00Comments on True Confessions of a Single Mama : Working Through Birth TraumaAbbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14992218915423095158noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7822236028909008472.post-47552687465245774152015-01-20T12:21:51.183-08:002015-01-20T12:21:51.183-08:00It’s great to hear about this preemptive plan. I g...It’s great to hear about this preemptive plan. I guess it would be easier for you this time, since you’re already aware of what to expect. Yes, the fear is kind of an inevitable part of it. After all, we’re talking about childbirth and going under the knife here. Well, I hope everything worked out the way you intended them to be. Good luck, and take care!<br /><br /><a href="https://medicalattorneyny.wordpress.com/2014/11/24/new-york-birth-injury-attorney-helps-with-infection-related-cases/" rel="nofollow">Sabrina Craig @ The Law Offices of Joseph M. Lichtenstein</a><br />Sabrina Craighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06094554516202049753noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7822236028909008472.post-62528087868211366702014-03-02T12:44:57.886-08:002014-03-02T12:44:57.886-08:00PS I will say that tincture of time has helped me ...PS I will say that tincture of time has helped me a lot with the fear. At six months out, there's no way I could think about it. Now, after two and a half years, it's easier. So if you are worried about how this will impact your T42 hopes and dreams... it may get easier with time. Though for me, it took more time than I think you want to wait.Abbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08856563547693346602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7822236028909008472.post-35535930499559383952014-03-02T12:43:49.665-08:002014-03-02T12:43:49.665-08:00I thought a lot about you and Wottadoll when writi...I thought a lot about you and Wottadoll when writing my post. It's so hard to feel so out of control. I remember reading your bosts before S was born and hoping that you would have the experience you had hoped for, but feeling unsurprised that you didn't. I think I recognized a lot of myself i your experience. Unfortunately, it just seems hard for us strong women to have the experience we hope for. And I don't think it's all about what's wrong with us!<br /><br />I hope I will find the counseling as helpful as you did.Abbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08856563547693346602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7822236028909008472.post-64140564396865984742014-03-02T12:41:34.268-08:002014-03-02T12:41:34.268-08:00I'd love to hear about it if you do decide to ...I'd love to hear about it if you do decide to schedule an elective C-section. I'm not sure I'd actually go through with it because I do think there are health benefits to the baby in "going through the chute" but there's a lot that appeals about it!<br /><br />As I mentioned to the PP, I prepared for labor with Hypnobabies, but going into labor alone and drugged, I forgot all about it. Abbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08856563547693346602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7822236028909008472.post-40234884176262630302014-03-02T12:39:39.785-08:002014-03-02T12:39:39.785-08:00I also used Hypnobabies during pregnancy but becau...I also used Hypnobabies during pregnancy but because I went into labor while totally drugged and alone, it all went out the window. Totally forgot about it. I'm not sure I have the stomach to do all that prep again. Though I tried the methods for less painful things and found them effective. So maybe. <br /><br />I feel the same way, that I have the fear to contend with that I didn't have the first time around.Abbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08856563547693346602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7822236028909008472.post-2489152382091225762014-03-02T12:38:05.295-08:002014-03-02T12:38:05.295-08:00This is really helpful to hear. Because at the end...This is really helpful to hear. Because at the end of the day, really, what I can work on is my expectations of myself. I can't control the outcome. And my providers might change at the last minute. <br /><br />I hope you are right that I have a better experience!Abbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08856563547693346602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7822236028909008472.post-45745335497539386742014-03-01T21:13:57.786-08:002014-03-01T21:13:57.786-08:00Well, you know my birth story. I feel (and felt) ...Well, you know my birth story. I feel (and felt) your pain. It's the only thing that gives me pause about T42. Pregnancy was amazing, but hey, how do I get this kid out of my body when I don't like the 2 options I have to deliver? I think it's great that you are meeting with someone. As you know, I met with a therapist (she was officially a "spiritual leader," or something like that, but had been a doula in the past, taught yoga and hypnobirthing,etc, so she was familiar with birth). It was not what I expected but yet so so helpful. I planned on doing more than one session but never went back. Likely because it was enough. So, I applaud you thinking ahead and doing it.Beanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07718860351401886149noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7822236028909008472.post-54925086314582744492014-03-01T18:06:16.110-08:002014-03-01T18:06:16.110-08:00sorry --"completely different but equally awf...sorry --"completely different but equally awful"Laraf123https://www.blogger.com/profile/13283945251427328960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7822236028909008472.post-65685418616617223422014-03-01T18:05:26.614-08:002014-03-01T18:05:26.614-08:00You know, I also had serious birth trauma but neve...You know, I also had serious birth trauma but never really talked about it. It was awful. Both times. For completely different but equally different reasons. Okay, this is not what you want to hear. I'm sorry. BUT I just want you to know I can completely empathize with your list and you shouldn't let anyone minimize your feelings/memories over this. (That's what I would have wanted someone to say to me a few years ago.) <br /><br />Laraf123https://www.blogger.com/profile/13283945251427328960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7822236028909008472.post-39794609534776918822014-02-28T08:01:17.610-08:002014-02-28T08:01:17.610-08:00IMO, your experience with pushing would be a bette...IMO, your experience with pushing would be a better one with a better, more supportive (less judgemental) midwife or doula or nurse or whomever you chose. I pushed for 3 hours but the 2 midwife students & 2 Med students who spoke calmly & supportively to me the whole time made it seem like less than an hour. <br /><br />Thinking about these things now will make a world of difference once you're pregnant. You'll be better equipped to speak up for yourself this time.Tiarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17511522028218347560noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7822236028909008472.post-59250534218295608352014-02-28T05:48:49.557-08:002014-02-28T05:48:49.557-08:00I am so sorry you clearly had SUCH an awful time t...I am so sorry you clearly had SUCH an awful time the first time around. I had a vaginal unmedicated birth the first time - and am seriously considering a scheduled C section for the second! Wouldn't it be amazing to have everything planned, you could be ready for the birth on the day of your choice, with the people you have chosen to be there and your home cooked frozen meals ready to go at home!<br />Have you considered looking into Hypnobirthing - I am going to a hypnotherapist who does this too and it is proving extremely helpful!bunintheovenplease!https://www.blogger.com/profile/08983526508391055997noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7822236028909008472.post-6239404136110977562014-02-28T04:25:08.202-08:002014-02-28T04:25:08.202-08:00I had a wonderful midwife for my delivery, and I t...I had a wonderful midwife for my delivery, and I think she and the nurses made SUCH a difference in getting me through what was a very intense labor. I also had the 4-5 hours of pushing (my pelvic floor was TOO strong, they said!), which is very daunting when I think about going through everything a second time. I think the thing I fear the most is that I do have fear now. I was very calm about labor the first time around because I didn't know what was coming. I expected it to be hard, but I never expected the pushing, exhausting part to last so long. I found Hypnobabies to be really helpful in eliminating fear during my pregnancy (it didn't work during labor), so I hope it can work its magic if I ever do it all again!Annahttp://www.twelve22.org/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7822236028909008472.post-53303662433195896242014-02-28T03:26:08.892-08:002014-02-28T03:26:08.892-08:00I think it's really smart to be thinking about...I think it's really smart to be thinking about your providers now. Though you'll also have plenty of time after finding out you are pregnant... I took several weeks after knowing I was pregnant at 5 weeks to deciding. I hope my experience can be encouraging. My pregnancy was worse (more uncomfortable/sick) with #2, and my labor and delivery (2 WEEKS prodromal labor followed by same lack of progression I'd had with #1, same pitocin, and eventually emergency c-section (while with #1 I'd at least managed to deliver vaginally). Anyways all that is to say my experience giving birth the 2nd time was WHOLLY better because my expectations of myself (an "I am open to what comes" attitude) and my midwife/nurses and eventually ob/surgeon were met. The midwife and nurses -at a different hospital- were wonderful and communicative and the postpartum care for 4 days in hospital was lovely. It made ALL the difference in an equally "bad" scenario of birth events. Well good luck with TTC, I do believe you can and will have a better experience the 2nd time around!Clairehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18090532551103414307noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7822236028909008472.post-25200138551516616172014-02-27T18:37:19.382-08:002014-02-27T18:37:19.382-08:00I think it's great to do a little consulting b...I think it's great to do a little consulting before TTC. That's what I did and found it very comforting. Had I had the $$ I definitely would have invested in some therapy, too. It's great that you have a very concise list of "grievances" to work with - I bet many if not all of those issues can and will be addressed with the right provider!wottadollhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16527435736562324563noreply@blogger.com