tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7822236028909008472.post7088625709712270836..comments2023-06-26T05:37:49.969-07:00Comments on True Confessions of a Single Mama : Feeling a Little BlueAbbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14992218915423095158noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7822236028909008472.post-60454400643234100782015-06-11T11:59:59.389-07:002015-06-11T11:59:59.389-07:00I can understand that feeling of wanting to be ‘mo...I can understand that feeling of wanting to be ‘mothered’. Being in charge all the time can be very exhausting, especially when you have a lot of things on your plate. Perhaps it would be best to find someone that can handle some of the responsibilities and tasks around the house, so you can focus on the things that require your immediate attention. And that might also help with Calliope’s anxiety with strangers coming into the house, since she will only have to deal with the same person everyday. Anyway, I hope you three are doing well. Stay strong!<br /><br /><a href="http://thebridgeacross.blogspot.com/2015/03/tips-for-solving-single-parent-problems.html" rel="nofollow">Carlos Strey @ The Bridge Across</a> Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09575041883836940182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7822236028909008472.post-54217699815698470552015-04-04T14:57:19.289-07:002015-04-04T14:57:19.289-07:00I give you a lot of credit. A ton, really. I'm...I give you a lot of credit. A ton, really. I'm still in the "thinking" stage of trying for a second, and this post..l scares me. But makes me want to thank you at the same time. I don't know, it's weird. But I like hearing the reality, even if it's tough. I'm just so sorry you're feeling this way. I hope things settle down for calliope, and everything just eases up for you, and soon. Hang in there. Rhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12437548841903850607noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7822236028909008472.post-78937297094255482272015-04-02T04:40:32.473-07:002015-04-02T04:40:32.473-07:00I am sorry you're feeling this way. I so admir...I am sorry you're feeling this way. I so admire you for identifying what it is that you yearn for, even if it would drive you nuts in actuality. Tiarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17511522028218347560noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7822236028909008472.post-37430845563566985712015-04-01T18:06:35.832-07:002015-04-01T18:06:35.832-07:00Oh, yes...I definitely wanted a mother to take car...Oh, yes...I definitely wanted a mother to take care of me after I gave birth. Both times. It didn't happen but I definitely remember how natural, even primal , that longing was. This too shall pass (just like the sweating) but it's nit much fun when you are in the middle of it, I know.Laraf123https://www.blogger.com/profile/13283945251427328960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7822236028909008472.post-41894329515968559862015-04-01T06:22:25.010-07:002015-04-01T06:22:25.010-07:00So sorry you are missing your mom. And, like ever...So sorry you are missing your mom. And, like everyone else, I get that desire to feel taken care of. But I think part of it is giving into it. No one can or will take care of you like your mom but you have an amazing network of friends in your life that do want to take care of all 3 of you so let them! I know for me, it is just harder to accept the help when it isn't coming from family.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7822236028909008472.post-48664237918228981582015-04-01T05:39:11.341-07:002015-04-01T05:39:11.341-07:00Oh and one more thought - be sure to still ask fri...Oh and one more thought - be sure to still ask friends to bring meals to you, if and when you cut off the in-person help! B/c that's still a big help and helped me feel cared for.Clairehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18090532551103414307noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7822236028909008472.post-40163931683183223462015-04-01T05:36:31.877-07:002015-04-01T05:36:31.877-07:00Oh, me too! I absolutely GET what you are saying. ...Oh, me too! I absolutely GET what you are saying. Fiona did amazingly well with adjusting (at only age 2 I think it's easier) but it quickly became clear that all the evening help - a different person coming in each night - was super stressful for Fiona. As soon as I could (which after a c-section took about 10 days) I stopped having visitors so we could just settle into our routine, the 3 of us. When Carys was a month old I also started to have friends watch her for a couple hours so I could take Fiona on "special, big girl only" dates and that helped SO much. Oh, and I sooo get the feeling of wanting to be taken care of. Having children amplifies the loss of your own mom a lot, and when its so recent, and you have your experience after having Calliope to compare to, I can see how that hurts. I'm sorry, Abby. It is really, really, really hard with two, there's no way around it and yes, as choice moms we just have to buck up and deal with it. I hope you find some solutions that work for you and keep sharing here, because we do truly get it. Hugs.Clairehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18090532551103414307noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7822236028909008472.post-2651171510618870442015-03-31T22:13:06.843-07:002015-03-31T22:13:06.843-07:00Oh boy, do I know that feeling! I remember after T...Oh boy, do I know that feeling! I remember after Theo was born wishing I could be back in the hospital where it was all about me and I was lovingly waited on and attended to. This single mother stuff is HARD. It would be so great to have someone to lean on sometimes. wottadollhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16527435736562324563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7822236028909008472.post-69720403562071241862015-03-31T20:11:20.259-07:002015-03-31T20:11:20.259-07:00I'm so sorry you are feeling this way right no...I'm so sorry you are feeling this way right now. Wish I could help you out somehow. Is it possible to have your nanny come in and help with more rather than other outside people? She has much more experience in your home and with Calliope than any one else other than you. Sending hugs.Alihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04113533500702336140noreply@blogger.com